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(*I dislike calling it “female ejaculation” because I prefer to refrain from using gender terms, however to call it “vaginal ejaculation” would be anatomically incorrect and misleading.)

The G-spot is located behind the pubic bone, roughly a half finger-length inside the vagina.

First, empty your bladder. The g-spot is located right near the bladder and if the bladder is full or even partially full, stimulating the g-spot will cause pressure on the bladder, leading to discomfort and mistaking the difference between needing to urinate and orgasm.

To touch, it is roughly the size of a small walnut. It is spongey but firm. Because it is located directly next to the bladder, stimulating it can give the sensation of pressure on bladder, or even an urge to urinate.

The best way to locate the g-spot is to lie down on your back with your hips propped up and supported by a pillow or two. Spread your legs wide, be relaxed and introduce your middle finger into your vagina. Push the your finger in and curve it as though you’re beckoning someone to you. Though you may not feel a very prominent spongey, firm spot, pressing up against the pubic bone will likely produce a sensation that, when rubbed, feels like pressure against the bladder that begins to feel good.

This may or may not feel good when masturbating; that is an individual thing. However, during sex, the penis rubs against the g-spot in a way that induces sexual excitement and can produce a vaginal orgasm, which is very different to a clitoral or anal orgasm.

A combination of stimulating the g-spot and the clitoris, and sometimes having someone press down firmly on the area where your bladder is, can achieve a squirting orgasm. People with vaginas frequently report a sensation of needing to urinate leading up to or during orgasm. This is actually the sensation of the body wanting to squirt. Many people hold it back or stop the stimulation because they believe it’s pee rather than part of their orgasm.

It’s believed that ejaculation is produced by the Skene’s glands. These are very small glands located in the vulva, right near the urethral opening.

Because of its location and because of the consistency of ejaculate, it’s easily mistaken for urine. Unlike urine, however, ejaculate has little or no smell.

(Unrelated but useful to know: Bartholin’s glands are glands which secrete mucus during arousal to lubricate the vulva and entrance of the vagina in preparation for penetration. Several minute drops of mucus are excreted during sexual excitement, giving the external genital region a wet appearance. Further mucosal lubrication takes place within the vaginal walls itself during arousal and leading up to orgasm.)

It can take quite some time to build the body up towards orgasm through g-spot stimulation, especially if you’re not used to it. Make sure to be patient and to experiment a lot with this so you become familiar with how your body responds and how it feels.

You can use your fingers, though this may be difficult, as fingers aren’t very long. A vibrator or dildo can assist you, however. Insert and position the dildo in a manner that directly rubs against your g-spot. Combine massaging and stimulating your clitoris to heighten arousal and excitement.

As you feel yourself approaching orgasm, increase the pressure of the dildo against your g-spot. At the same time, rub your clitoris from side to side in a fast and furious manner. The combination of both the pressure on your g-spot and intense stimulation of the clitoris causes the muscles involved in ejaculation to spasm. The sensation of needing to pee may heighten, however keep going.

The body may be overcome with shuddering convulsions. How much you ejaculate varies from person to person. Some only squirt a small amount, some emit quite a substantial amount. The amount in which you emit is not important. What is important is the orgasm itself produced during ejaculation.

 There are only three things I can think of adding to this:

  • Make sure you’re entirely comfortable, worrying about why it could be taking so long to happen probably won’t help the process!
  • It is also possible to ejaculate whilst only focusing on the G spot or whilst only focusing on the clitoris.
  • To the part that says “rub your clitoris from side to side in a fast and furious manner”, that isn’t necessarily how it should be done for everybody. It can occur if you’re rubbing in all sorts of other directions, with all sorts of other pressures. It depends on what’s right for you.

Just relax, get your lone-sexy-time on and have fun experimenting with it!


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